I am currently reading Tony Robbin’s, “Awakening The Giant Within.” I am inspired by what this man says he did. Somehow going from living in a tiny apartment, working as a janitor, to flying his own helicopter to one of his events, and doing this in a few short months. I think the man has some good teachings, but I have run across something I disagree with, in the section where he is talking about pain VS pleasure.
He talks about linking a negative experience to something you do not want to do, such as alcohol or drugs. He speaks of the time he took his children to a tenement building to look at people shooting up and child prostitutes in order to make them not want to do drugs. He mentions how the police came to his class in the 4th grade and showed them the dark side of drug use, essentially. I assume this would be their DARE program, as they came around the same grade when I was in school.
The problem with broad, sweeping statements like, “Drugs are bad” is that they are simplistic and never cover the entire truth. Even if %99.9 of drugs users shoot up in filthy tenements, that still leaves a small percentage that do not. Certainly a lot of people shoot up in decrepit buildings. But some use drugs at home, and others use them on country clubs. What of steroids or prescription drugs? What about addressing the cause of this symptom, I.E., why these folks are using drugs in the first place?
In a society where everyone has their needs met and at least some of their desires, you will not find drug users, murder, theft, etc. Truly content, happy people do not use drugs to escape, have no desire or need to steal anything, and never feel compelled to hurt others. The issue of school shootings has nothing to do with guns. It has everything to do with people who are driven to these kinds of extremes and the things that drive them.
We could say religion is bad, because some some folks in some variety of the Muslim religion have strapped bombs on themselves or each other and blown themselves and other people up. Should we make religion illegal because of the actions of a few fanatics? Why are we insistent on making guns illegal then? Guns don’t kill people, bullets do. Bullets do not load themselves into guns, people do. Guns do not shoot bullets at other people, people aim the guns and pull the trigger. And for most people, they couldn’t even point a gun at another person, much less pull the trigger!
I have said this before and it bears repeating… Take away the guns and people will use knives. Take away the knives and they will use sticks. Take away the sticks and they will use rocks. Take away the rocks and they will use their bare hands. Making guns harder to get only creates a lucrative market for those who sell them illegally, just as making drugs harder to get has creative a lucrative market for those who wish to sell them. It also means that it will be harder for those who want to use guns legitimately, to protect themselves and their families, from getting them.
Using fear to control yourself or your children is a SERIOUS mistake! Fear-mongering against drugs and guns creates a fear-based, deceptive and dishonest environment within our homes and society. We are too focused on the symptoms of the disease and not on the disease itself. The police in the DARE program are liars. Those that tell you that marijuana is a dangerous drug are liars. There is far too much effort being expended here to control the behavior of other people, and it creates all sorts of problems in society. Eventually the whole system will collapse.
If you do not want your children to do drugs you have a couple of things to address. First of all you are trying to control your children’s behavior. Too many parents get caught up in what they want for their kids, never paying any attention to what their children want for themselves, Remember you are stewards of your children. You can and should guide and direct them. But you should never attempt to control them.
Secondly your focus is wrong. You should never be concerned directly with what you children do or do not do. Instead, you should be focusing on raising your children in a way they have no desire or need to do the things you do not want them to be doing.
In other words, raise your children to love and accept themselves as they are, so they can love and accept others as they are, guide them towards contentment and joy, and the end result is a child that will never want to do drugs, and will never been driven to shoot a gun at another person.
To put it even more simply… Raise unhappy children and they will find a way to ease their unhappiness. In an attempt to express themselves, they may even spread their unhappiness to others. But find a way to raise happy children, and they will have no need to seek happiness through things like substances. Also happy, loving children are confident, self-assured and will create happiness around them for others.
Using fear to control your children, like Tony Robbins, and it will ultimately fail. How many societies have fallen because their rulers ruled through fear? Would you want your children living in a place like North Korea? Know that whenever you attempt to control your children through fear, you are no better than Kim Jong-un!
Also understand that EVERY PLANT on this planet has a purpose. Mankind’s evolution may be inextricably linked to hallucinogenic, psilocybin mushrooms. Marijuana is safer than any other strong pain reliever on the market today, it is non-addictive for people without addictive personalities, and it has no negative side effects. It does not damage brain cells, to the extent that you will become some sort of lifeless, vegetative zombie if you use it. Especially if you do not use it in abusive amounts.
ANYTHING can cause long-term health effects if you believe it will, and if you use enough of it. I am sure you could find a way to kill yourself with Aspirin if you tried hard enough. I do not recommend that. But if you are former soldier with PTSD, or have painful cancer, there is nothing better for you than smoking some weed. It will ease your pain and relax you.
The reason we have the curriculum and drugs policy we do (which attacks every substance except pharmaceutical drugs, with are far worse by the way) started with Nixon and may go further back. There has been a very active but hidden campaign against all hallucinogenic substances. But these substances are necessary for our physical and spiritual evolution! You have no idea how many things we enjoy in modern society came about indirectly from someone using one of these psycho-active substances!
It isn’t about the drugs themselves, or the guns, or anything else people want to control or make illegal. It is about how these things are used. It is about why they are used. It is about what is driving a person, and what is the societal cause. You can not cure someone by treating only their symptoms. You have to get to the cause, and that same rule applies here. If we fix the thing that is driving people to school shootings, or shooting up in filthy buildings, then these sorts of things will stop.
But if we continue to try to control people, using fear or the law or both, it will be like sealing up boiled water in a pan. It will explode, the only question is when. We have seen these explosions in the Civil War, the World Wars, The Vietnam and Koren Wars, the hippy movement of the 60’s, the racism movement, the woman’s rights movement, the LBGT movement, the bombings and now these public shootings.
Better to remove the lid, remove the pressure, and work together with our children to address the cause, than to keep using fear and the law to control things just so we can be happy. You can not control people, you can not control your children, and it is better if you just stop trying.
Because if you walk into a tenement building and are looking down in disgust or pity at people shooting up or selling themselves, you can not be loving and accepting them as they are. If you can not love and accept others as they are, chances are you are not loving and accepting yourself as you are. And this is one aspect of the issue in society we must address. It starts with you, and extends from there.
Alcohol, drugs and guns are not your enemy. These are tools, and just as someone could take a machete and chop up another person, so too can people misuse these and other things society seeks to control out of fear.
But at the same time, a machete is one of the most valuable things you could have with you in jungle (as well as a gun.) A gun is one of the most valuable things you could have with you if you live in a neighborhood with a lot of crime (as well as proper training in how to use it of course.)
Alcohol is enjoyable to a moderate extent in social gatherings, some foods tastes better with wine, and having a six-pack with bowl of spicy chicken wings as you watch the Super Bowl is probably one of the most enjoyable experiences hard-working men and women can have after a long week.
Drugs can help you deal with pain and trauma. They can also help you have extra-physical and non-physical experiences, giving you even more appreciation for our physical life and the world we live in. Also, as I have said before, you can not be depressed on shrooms!
It is time to throw out the broad, sweeping statements and generalities. It is time to be honest with ourselves and our children. People are hurting, suffering, and some of them are only finding relief by hurting others. What can we do to help alleviate their pain? How can we love and accept these people as they are? HINT, the first step is learning to forgive them. How do we find and then address the things in our society that are causing these things to occur?
There is no easy answer, no quick fix, no one-size-fits all solution. There is only our willingness to ask the hard questions, to create the needed changes, to face the challenging issues with our children, and then finally to roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty doing the hard work of creating a society where people are no longer driven to the extremes they are currently driven to. It is time, in short, to stop fucking around and get to work!
Society, as it is now, CREATES substance abuse. CREATES violence. So let’s build a different society, one that does not create these things.