We live in a world of duality. That means for everything that exists, its opposite also exists.
If you are interested in someone, and you have consulted your inner guidance (in whatever form that may take for you, from listening to your heart or talking to God) and have received the words or thought that this person is not the right one for you at this time in your life (likely you will have already had this thought in the back of your mind before you even asked about it), in that same instant there exists someone who is.
In other words, you can not have someone who is not the right person for you at this time in your life, without also having someone who is. One can not exist separately from the other, in a world of duality.
Tying that in with what I said earlier, even if in the unlikely chance that there was nobody else on earth compatible with you before you found out that this person you are interested in is also not compatible with you, the second you verify the existence of someone who is not compatible, someone could be born in what you would perceive as your past, grow up, and exist now, in what you perceive as your present, someone who is.
You may feel it is hard to find someone who is the right person for you. But you can always, without exception, find someone who is not the right person for you. As long as you can find someone who is not the right person for you, there has to be someone who is.
Also it would do not good for someone to be the right person for you who lives in Alaska when you never venture outside of some small city in Italy. So a number of things come built in to the person who is the right one for you.
They will be someone you have access to, in whatever way is best for you, or that you desire. They have to be, or they wouldn’t be the right one for you. If you travel, they will be in the range of your travel. If you stay in one city, they will live in that same city. If you are confined to your apartment, they will likely be in the same building.
They will also be someone you are, or can be, or will be, attracted to. Maybe not initially. Sometimes we look at something, or someone, and immediately decide we dislike it. If it is a pair of shoes you may hate them at first. Then you find, after a month or so, you wear them all the time and they are your favorite pair of shoes. This can happen with people as well. The one who is the right one for you at this time may not initially be someone you would consider.
So there is no reason for you to ever give up. You never have to kill yourself just because you can’t find anyone. If you find even one person who is not the right one for you, in the instant you confirm this and know it for sure, there is someone who is. That person will be within easy access of the natural flow of your life, although you may not be aware of them or recognize them at first.
In other words, you don’t have to go out hunting for them. They will be right there, somewhere, within the range of your life, as it currently exists, or, if it is changing, according to that change. They will be at your place of work, at the restaurant you enjoy going to, your coffee shop, somewhere along the route you take to go to work, at your local grocery store, in your building, or at the park you visit, or along the country road where you live.
You may not meet them, or they may slip under your radar. But that is OK, because as long as there is someone who is not the right person, there is someone who is, at all times, all through your life, ad infinitum.
I find this particularly encouraging, because I live two and a half miles or so from a small town, on a country road, and I don’t drive or go out socially. I rarely leave the house in fact, and am pretty much confined to the property, unless I decide to bike out on the road around what I call the loop. So somewhere nearby there has to be a female who is the right one for me at this time in my life. Because all around me are females who are not.
Now I am not 100% sure how I am to cross paths with this person or persons. I don’t know how to apply this knowledge at a practical level just yet. I know it has something to do with being open and receptive. Taking any opportunity that comes my way. Being aware and present of what is going on around me as I flow in the natural course of my life. Somewhere, out there, is the female who is the right one for me at this time in my life, even for someone as isolated and sheltered as me.
I think it is something like this phenomena, where you are looking at a particular type of car, or buy one, and all of a sudden you see that same care everywhere. An even better example for me is the bus. The bus has been running in this small town for at least as long as I have been here. It has been coming into and going out of town on a regular basis. But I can’t think of one time I ever saw it, until I took my first ride on it. Now I notice it whenever it passes by or I pass it. It simply didn’t exist for me until I rode it, even though it was always there, and had been there the whole time.
In a similar fashion the one who is the right one for you may not exist for you right now. But that does not mean they do not exist. They do, you are just not aware of them. You don’t know they are there. You do not notice them. But they are there, and the moment you find even one person who is the right one for you, your perception will change, and you will see others, because there is no “the one.” There are multiple people who are the right ones for you all through the various stages and times of your life.
Don’t give up. If you have found even one person who is not the right one, there must be someone who is. Remember that on noticing someone who is not the right one, you will notice others who are not, because your perception has changed. But for everyone who is not the right one, there is someone who is, so remember this and take heart.
Be open and receptive. Be aware and present as you move through the natural flow of your life. Take any opportunities that feel right, do not allow fear to control you. Somewhere, easily accessible, is at least one person who is the right one for you at this time in your life. Greet each morning with the question, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I meet the right person for me today?” No expectations, setting deadlines or taking control. Just an open question that does not require an answer. See what happens.