I have a realization today that was sobering, and which I still don’t fully understand. The picture below is the easiest way I can think to depict this:
Essentially what this is meant to display is the fact that what most call balance can only exist if there is also an imbalance. The image, tentatively entitled, “True Balance”, shows that true balance is not a balance at all. It is a state of acceptance. This is acceptance of all, everything in your awareness, its “isness” if you will.
I never really understood until how what exactly was meant when certain books taught that good and bad are the same thing. My mind balked at this idea. Now I’m beginning to see just how this is. I have used a sort of battery icon to demonstrate this. Each battery in the illustration is of a commonly held and cherished societal belief. These are only the most commonly known ones, from the top of my head. there are many more.
Many religions teach this idea of good and evil. Some religions worship good, some worship evil. Here’s the thing, no matter which side you consciously give your energy to, your energy also travels to the other end of the spectrum. It has to. In a belief such as good VS evil good can not exist without evil, nor evil without good. By believing and worshiping one extreme or the other you give equal amounts of energy to both, because you are powering the entire belief. True Balance is found in the center, accepting the world and its inhabitants as they are. Here’s the truth, nobody is good or evil, and the world is neither good nor evil. A tree is beautiful to look at. It gives us oxygen to breathe. But it can still kill you by falling on you in some way, you falling from it, lighting striking you while you are under it, fire from its wood burning down your house, etc.
A tree simply is. People simply are. Sin only exists because certain religions believe it does. Likewise bad people only exist because others, including themselves, believe them to be bad. But you were born in the center, you were born as neither. Not perfect. Perfection implies imperfection. Perfection is stagnation in that you are always good enough, imperfection implies devolution in that you never are good enough. You just simply were. As you grew up, based on others beliefs of you, and the ones you took on for yourself, you started to go to one end of the scale or the other. You can only get back to the center by a conscious act of will.
The same applies for positive VS negative. Just as I was led into the trap of Christianity, where I chose to stay until recently, so I fill into this trap. Always training my parents to think positively. Sounds great huh? Nothing wrong with looking on the brighter side, right? Wrong.
By investing energy into the positive you are also investing an equal amount of energy into the existence of the negative. This can have long-lasting detrimental effects. Imagine if your parents constantly taught you to think positively, ingraining that thought system into you. It became your religion. What happens when you think a negative thought? This can happen because all possibilities exist, both positive and negative, and you could experience either one. Well when that negative though comes in you are likely to criticize and judge yourself, investing still more energy into the negative even as you try to claw your way to the positive. In the end you fail to accept yourself as you are, and how can you love yourself if you do not accept yourself? How can you love others if you do not love yourself?
So the idea here is to remain neutral, neither positive or negative. You accept yourself as you are, you accept others as they are. But here is where I’m currently stuck. How can you improve yourself when you are constantly thinking negative things? Because that’s where I was before I found books, before I embarked on my journey of spiritual growth, that taught me to think positively? Will the simple act of loving and accepting yourself as you are change your mind from negative thought patterns? Some research has to be done here.
Before you start going all 1960s on me about love, even though its not on that chart, that’s another trap. Do you know when one of the worst racist periods was in America? In the 1960s, right there with the huge love movement. That’s because, you guessed it, believing and worshiping love also gives energy to hatred. Love is not the key, as I have already said, acceptance is. If you worship love and aren’t feeling you are loving enough, what do you do? You begin to criticize and judge, to hate yourself. That’s right, hatred comes in. Likewise if you are a racist, hating others because of the color of their skin, what happens? You find yourself in uncomfortable loving situations. Maybe someone you were persecuting looked at you with pure love and forgiveness. Not sure how it works here at the other end of the scale, so more research should be done there as well.
Then there is the Buddhist teaching of, “No Attachment, No Aversion.” Well, unlike the other things in the image, the Buddhist perspective plants you solidly in the center, right where you need to be.
OK, so how about those who may not have religion? Scientists, government types, etc.? Well they do have a religion believe it or not. They all collectively believe in and worship laws or rules. Most scientific people insists on these things in the process of their work. Most government types believe a society without laws and rules would be lawless. Do you know how many jails we have here in America? Did you ever wonder how come Gotham City got worse after Batman stepped in?
By creating laws and rules we create those who abide by them and those who do not. Those who do not follow rules and laws begin to believe that they are the criminals or rule breakers everyone seems to see them as. In another couple of years Obama Care will become law. You will have to buy health insurance. This will be a law, a rule. So are you a criminal if you can’t afford to purchase health care, and decide to go without it? What happens if your job, which you have held onto by the skin of your teeth (not through any fault of your own) is taken away because your employers require that you have insurance, and they find out you don’t? They’re happy to throw you out, they’ve been trying to get rid of you for years but so far have found no reason to be able to do so. Now you have no job. But let’s say you have a family at home, a couple of children. Rents coming due, one of them needs medicine, you all need food. You try to find legal work and can’t. Can’t sell yourself on the street either. So you fall in with what others call a bad crowd, and get involved in stealing some money. Or maybe you just walk into a bank and hold it up. Now you are officially a criminal, a rule breaker. Once they take away your children, you may start to believe you are the bad person everyone says you are. Things continue to spiral down this way. I have a hunch that this story is all-to-common in our society.
But until we learn to accept ourselves and each other as we are, developing natural love through acceptance, it may be very hard to throw out the rules. Only a people that accept each other and themselves will have the respect needed to live together peaceably without rules or laws.
Oh and let’s not forget another truth here – you can’t force anyone to change. So police officers, trying to force people to abide by laws and rules, only causes people to go the other way and break laws and rules. Because police officers do not, in general, accept people as they are. To a cop you are a law abiding citizen or you are a criminal. Once you have been labeled a criminal you remain one for the rest of your life. When cops enforce stupid rules like mandatory health care, they increase the injustice the citizenry feel and create more criminals.
The idea place to be here is, once again, neutral. Neither law-abiding nor a criminal. But how one can go about doing that is beyond my ken at this point!
Lastly we have desirable VS undesirable. The theme and way this works is the same as all others. Belief in any one extreme creates the other. You can apply this to like VS dislike as well. This is yet another trap that I have only recently fell into.
So I have a future I want, the absolute best life for me. Well if there is an absolute best life then there is a absolute worst life, isn’t there? I am not accepting life as it is, moment by moment. But here is a puzzle for me. We humans have been gifted, as far as I know, with the ability to create the reality we want. So how can we use this gift and at the same time accept life as it is? I don’t know. I could create the reality where I do know, and say something like, “I learn how”, but this also creates the reality where I don’t know.
My working theory right now, unless hypothesis is a better word, is that by accepting life as it is, you will naturally fall into the best life for yourself. Because you invest energy equally in the possibility of either side, without choosing one or the other, the two energies cancel each other out, or purify each other, or Truly Balance each other, and this energy comes back to you in whatever area it applies to. So by simply accepting others as they are, accepting myself as I am, the energy comes to me naturally to purely and truly love others and myself, and this pure, genuine love, this love of pure acceptance, without bias, prejudice, expectation or anything else, well it affects others I interact with as well, making a change in them as they begin to believe in themselves to love and accept themselves, then others, and the cycle continues. This is how we change the world. It starts with one person, then takes off exponentially.
The good news is that this process already started. Thousands of years ago with people like Jesus and Buddha. It is continuing today with people all over the world. Someday this world will be at peace, it will be centered and Truly Balanced, all people will love and accept themselves and others. There will be little or no illness or sickness. We will live as one with our home. We may be vastly technologically advanced. Because once we love and accept ourselves and others, integration can occur. Right now there are bits of it, resulting in the advances we have had. But everyone on earth has the potential to contribute in some way to some advance or other, and when we are integrated, or what others call one (seems very scary to our ego driven need to be unique and individual), well then all the resources will be there to create whatever is needed or wanted.
Of course this vision of mine of the future is not made from a truly centered or neutral perception, so it is not of the highest ideal. But it should help those who read this post to see the potentiality in mankind, and in themselves.